Everyone, once in a while will get offended, it maybe small thing and it maybe a huge thing and many people see it differently. Some can be forgiven very easily, but some are not.
I was (in my own opinion) being offended by someone (a friend of mine) quite deeply, and as all of us know, thing get better when you can let bygone be bygone... But the thing is, this was something I find it ultimately hard to forgive. Everytime I see him in person, I hated him (yes, even though his my friend) so much that I din even want to talk to him.
After a few months, I was desperate for change as I was getting very moody all the time and I just didn't like what I living with. I wanted to let go of this old problem, not matter how much time I try forgiving him, it really feel like the devil winning this one, a really close victory for him though. I asked for help for a friend in a land down under (Aussie), and thank God for him, really thank God. It was this sentence that somehow the answer to all this:
"pray and walk on the Holy Spirit to guide you and to give you the ability to forgive the person."
One reading that, I realized that I was trying to forgive that person by my own strength. Giving up to God, I pray for it. Waiting for answer, it was still difficult forgiving him. Until I read a message (I forgot where it came from though.....), at time of life, we have to release something we feel very important to us to God.
I know this is not relating to one another to many of you all, but as I was trying to chase a girl (but obviously failed horribly, LOL), it actually fuel that hatred (one reason of it is cause there was a rumor that he was also chasing her...). But as much I like her, God wanted it to be off (for a moment(He knew it was these thing that making forgiving people impossible)). (Of couse with some confirmation along the way, I give that up just like that. But what was very very surprising to me was.... I have easily forgave the person, seriously easy!!! (Even now, I don't mind hanging out with him the whole day!!)
Forgiving people cant be very very tough at time (even if he/she didn't ask for forgiveness, just forgive, it can really change your life just like that), but all I wanna say is (just like what my friend told me) : "pray and walk on the Holy Spirit to guide you and to give you the ability to forgive the person."
And more importantly, listen to what God need you to do if you really need to forgive that certain person. My maybe releasing something very important is the answer to my problem, but it could be different for other case, just listen to God!! God bless you!!
